What Are
You Trying To Say
Ok, ok, I
know this will freak you out...I know it did me, at first. I signed up on a
dating sight.
I know,
don't say it. I couldn't help myself. My writer/blogger friend, Aurora
Morealist, mentioned it in the interview I did with her last month and I
couldn't help myself. I was curious. Could I really meet someone on that
kind of site?
Well, let
me just say, perusing the site is very entertaining. I know the site gives
instructions on how to pick a good profile picture. We all know these sites are
geared for looks first, personality second - if at all. So explain something to
me guys...What are you thinking?
I'm
flipping through the 200 men the site recommends I may have something in common
with. The profile photos are surprising and, to be frank, quite scary in some
cases. Guys, come on, in what planetary plane do you think a woman would find
you attractive with a mouth full of food? Better yet, the photo where you cut
out the ex-wife/girlfriend? Really? I still see her arm around you and her hand
is on your shoulder with the hunk of diamond you bought her 15 years ago.
Dudes, I am amazed! I know you may not want your friends knowing you're posting
on a dating site but the pic in front of the bathroom mirror with your cell phone
in your hand...wholly moly, have you no other photos? Could you just get
someone to take a photo of you? Say its just 'cuz. Guys, guys (shaking my head
in dispair), what are we going to do with you?
I love
photos of scenery, but guys, I don't care how unfortunate you think you look,
that will not get a woman to talk to you. We're just as afraid of how you look
as you think you look. We don't like surprises. Have you noticed you can post
more than one photo? That means, save the ones with your kids for those - not
the profile. Yes, most women like kids and we know yours are important to you,
but you are trying to get us to be attracted to you, not your 10 year old
daughter or, for that matter, the small lap dog licking your face.
The photo
doesn't have to be professional, just clear with enough light so we can see
you, and close up enough we don't need a magnifying glass to see what you look
like. Nothing fancy, unless you want to.
It would,
also, be nice if you smiled a bit. Looking grumpy or a mug shot doesn't attract
dates usually either.
Men, think
about the photos of women you like to see. Do you realize we may take 40 photos
to find just the right one? Granted, I don't see the profile pics of the women
on the dating site, but I do know I tried to pick some of my best shots. I know
my girlfriends on Facebook, also, take great pains to post the best photos.
Come on
guys, get a clue. If you are looking for someone to spend some time with,
attract her the right way...with your best foot forward.
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Take 2 is Linda Bolton’s first novel is available on Amazon. She
is currently working on her second book to be released summer 2013. When she’s
not writing, Linda is a GiGi, playing with her new granddaughter Z, and working
full-time. While working on a future projects Linda can be found:
On Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/lindaboltonauthor
On Twitter at http://www.twitter.com/#!/lindalou42
Her romance blog at http://www.lindabolton.blogspot.com
On Goodreads at http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/6875749.Linda_Bolton
Lisa's Blog: http://lindabolton.blogspot.com/
Where to get Take 2: http://www.amazon.com/Take-2-ebook/dp/B00ATPVW2Q/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1362848708&sr=8-1&keywords=take+2+linda+bolton
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